Some create it and some just find it. In other words, it all comes down to choice or chance.
Chance plays a very tricky role in our lives. But we are human beings and we are born with conscience. We are always making a choice consciously or unconsciously. We make thousands of choices in our daily life itself. Right from waking up at a certain time to choosing what to wear to eating a certain kind of food to catching a particular bus to picking up certain calls to sleeping at a certain time. Everything is a choice. Even when you don’t have a choice, you are making a choice. For eg, there are only eggs for dinner and nothing else, you are unconsciously making a choice to eat only eggs although it looks like you don’t have a choice. Phew!
We are nothing but the consequences of the choices we make or are compelled to make. So, living a life of choice or living a life of chance is actually the result of our choice.
You can blame me for alliteration after reading my entire post btw. 😛
So what is chance and what role does it play if it’s always about the choice only? Chance is nothing but a situation that life throws at us from time to time. Sometimes you can predict and most of the times you can’t. Our motive is to make the best of our chance. But are we all really made that way?
There are people who reject the to-be events in their lives just because those events won’t fit their choices. These are the people who know what they want. They are unsettling with anything less than desired.
Then there are people who live with whatever life offers them without really working for it. These are the people who embrace any amount of vicissitudes coming their way; Good, bad or ugly. Such people choose to live a life of chance.
Both have their own beauty of working. There is no way to ascertain which is better. But there is certainly a way to make them work according to our best interests.
Let’s say, Career. Ideally, it should be your true choice based on your interests and capabilities. But more often than not, people choose to settle with something less. It may or may not work out well. Deciding a career is a phase which is time relative. It comes sooner to some people and later to some. It’s never too late, however, it’s easier said than done.
Establishing a career can be a daunting task which should never be given up. Every failure teaches us something and makes us better and wiser than yesterday, unless we choose to learn from it.
I’ve conveniently come to terms with the fact that at some point, you do need a great fall to rise up great! And you can fall only if you try. So keep trying and keep craving. If you really crave something, you’ll always have it achieved. (The Secret philosophy. Works!)
Now let’s consider the fall people make in the name of love. ^Relationships!! (love/ lust inclined :P)
I believe that it’s a wonderful fall only if it makes you rise in love. This is more or less chance based. A tricky phenomenon. Relationships don’t come with a manual. It’s unique and different with/for everyone.
For me, relationships are simple or so I believe. It’s the people who are complicated.
Let’s consider cheating/infidelity. People often mask it as a mistake, knowing too well that it was their choice that made it happen at that moment. They could have avoided it. But they chose not to.
Loyalty. It’s a choice, too. A priceless one.
Relationships, along with love and care, also tend to offer some uninvited things like dissatisfaction, agitation or frustration. The universal remedy is to let go and give ample room for each other. Space, they call it. It is important to have some time off to know yourself better in order to know the other person well. It depends on what you choose to sign up for.
Then there is family. Our last resort! Family is an important note of a relationships’ chord. Family must matter. There is no choice just how we don’t get to choose our blood either.
So yeah, you come in this world by chance, you meet some people by chance and you also happen to act things up by chance. This is involuntary. Although, you also get to choose to take a chance!! I took some good chances in knowing some people. Found some real gems! Lost some too. The trick is to know somehow where to take a chance.
Phew! As repetitive as this write-up may sound, I believe that I’ve made my views pretty clear. Let me know about yours. Until then, go make some kick-ass choices and make it worth your while 😀
I wish that let love come to you by chance and money by choice. Maybe vice-versa?